Thanks, Mom

May 14, 2006 at 10:53 pm Leave a comment

Mothers are never perfect, but after 22 years of living with mine, I can tell you she’s pretty close. In honor of Mother’s Day, I share two things that I have appreciated immensely about my mom as I’ve grown up:

1. Mom’s lips are sealed.

My mom’s policy has always been that she never—ever—talks about me (or my brother, or our dad) behind our backs. Mom never airs my dirty laundry in the presence of anyone else—and believe me, there are plenty of times when she could have!

I can’t express how safe it makes me feel to have this confidence. I know that I can confide in Mom without fear that she will break my trust. I know that if I mess up big time, she’s not going to tell her 32 closest friends.

Having seen how many other moms of my acquaintance regularly broadcast their children’s failures and struggles to their social circle, Mom’s respect for my privacy and dignity is one thing I have come to value immensely.

2. Mom never bought into the idea that her kids needed to learn from their own mistakes.

This point is controversial, I’m sure, but I’m convinced now that Mom was right.

She denied that I had to go out on my own and learn from my own experience; she insisted it was possible for me to circumvent a lot of heartache if I was willing to learn from other people’s mistakes. It was senseless, she said, for me to blindly repeat other people’s errors when I could have avoided them.

In saying this, Mom has never tried to prevent my independence. She’s merely given me a tool for using independence wisely. From my own experience, I can attest to the fact that she’s got something over pop psychology.

Thanks, Mom. I love you. Happy Mother’s Day.

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profile.jpgI am working on my M.A. in Religion at Andrews University in Berrien Springs, Michigan. Besides having a big interest in theology, history, ethics, and the deep stuff of life, I am also very fond of Mediterranean food, snow, and the color red.

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